Saturday, July 30, 2016


My first visit to CHM was in late August 1996. It was supposedly a good place for young people and should be ideal for my 13 year old son James and I’d heard right. It’s also a pretty good place for adults!

First some basic details. CHM is on the Atlantic coast of South West France, some 50 miles North West of Bordeaux. It is big: over 1800 pitches and over 40 acres. It has two private, naturist, beaches, a very comprehensive selection of shops and a cash machine. Most pitches have some shade from trees, mainly pine, and some sun. The surrounding countryside is mostly pine forests. If you have bicycles, there are cycle tracks, quiet roads, virtually no hills and the pine forests give shelter from any wind. The site is very adequately supplied with toilets, showers (hot and cold) and wash places. All kept frequently and properly clean. All types of mainly free activities are available such as acquirability, yoga, swimming pools, discos and many others. A few activities have to be paid for, these include tennis courts, archery and the ‘clubs ‘for small children. I’m not sure about any charges for ‘Village Artisanal’ for painting, sculpture and their other activities.2

Like Britain, South West France has Atlantic weather, but is of course warmer. Even so there may be cooler or rainy days but on most days in July and August finding suitable shade for an afternoon siesta was almost essential. The sea is not at Mediterranean temperatures but just fine to cool off and for some exercise. There is often good surf and many people use body boards. Certainly the sea seems to be much to the liking of the young people. Quite a number of people use wetsuits and stay in the sea for long periods.

Even if you don’t surf, the waves make for an interesting swim. You can also walk naked for miles (southwards) along the beach although beyond the CHM beach it is not officially naturist. The beach is almost all sandy. – Food is of course very important, and most French food calls for wine. Restaurants (3 course meals from about 55FF) ‘take aways’ and a very comprehensive range of fresh food, meat and drink available from the shops should cover all needs. There are more shops and a market in Montalivet village and the nearest hypermarkets – for widest choice and lowest prices – are in Lesparre (15 miles).

As seems to be normal now, the site could best be described as clothes optional. Not ideal for a naturist venue but it may be preferred by young people in your family. The beach and the pool are however definitely naturist; CHM security staff will ask people to remove clothes if they try to go on the beach dressed (except in a wet suit or towel).

And why so good for young people?

Firstly its a question of size. Because CHM is such a big site you will find a reasonable number of children and young people of all ages playing football or going to the child or youth discos. The occasional disco ‘SoirĂ©e Hexamousse’ when they fill the disco hall with foam is a great favourite (clothes and any shoes will get wet!). CHM seems a pretty safe place for children of all ages, lost children, if wearing their badge, will soon find someone to take them home.

Equally however CHM is fine for adults but, if you’re allergic to children, don’t go in school holidays.

One of the great attraction is the many red squirrels on the site, although not tame, will come quite close if you stay still. – CHM certainly attracts a lot of regular visitors – many loyal over decades. There are a considerable number of permanent sites – chalets and mobile homes.

Even though this was my fourth visits I’m still a newcomer but I have certainly been made to feel extremely welcome and enjoyed a number of invitations to supper.

Gordon Fraser


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Friday, July 22, 2016

Do You Really Think You Can Get the Woman You Really Want?

On a gut level we all know that if we don’t have real hope about something, we can’t move forward to getting it. We know that real hope, the belief that something good is going to come our way, is kind of the fuel of real courage, real guts. I also know that a lot of my attempts to impress women failed because I didn’t really think I had a shot, but was just going through the motions. That’s why finding out that a girl likes you beforehand makes it A LOT easier to “be cool” around her. You have hope, so you take heart and charge in, because you know that the risk is small.

This is why it seems difficult to have better social skills with women in general. If you’re talking to a girl that you don’t know you’re flying blind with regard to whether or not she likes you. And, I know it was true for me, that I had a general attitude that the cards were stacked against me. I also didn’t think that there was anything I could really do, not really, to change myself.

Why did I think this way? Because I felt it. Somewhere along the way I picked up enough bad experiences to implant the idea in my mind and the feeling in my body that, hey, you know you’re not good enough. There are only two opinions in the world you can never escape from, God’s opinion of you, and your opinion of yourself. So, my opinion was no good.

Get the Woman You Really WantSaying that you have to get success first, to believe that you are capable of attracting women is backwards. If you don’t start out believing “I am good enough”, then you won’t get success, or, if you do, you’ll still feel like a fraud. But, the good news is that if you come from this place of hopelessness, you don’t have to stay there.

The key is to get your beliefs in line with reality. The fact that you have free will, that you can make better decisions, learn new skills, is a fact. Read bios of people who’ve turned their lives around. Look for success stories. Look at the Bible, where people are consistently blessed by God for doing right, and reproved for doing wrong. God is not cruel, I don’t believe He is harsh on people for things that are beyond their control. I also don’t think He’s arbitrary, He blesses people who please Him, and what they do to please Him is under their control. But, it’s a fact that gets sidelined in the face of bad emotions and memories of past failures.

“Manliness” is a virtue, it’s the chief thing that is attractive to women and is heavily under our control. The key exercise is, when faced with a memory of past failure, or bad emotions about interacting with women, is to consciously reject it as untrue that you can’t do better. Then act like you can do better. Course correct.  A little courage, and you’ll find you feel better about yourself and your prospects almost instanteously.It may be a while before your feelings and beliefs  consistently (every time) coincide with each other, where you not only improve, but feel great about the process (and positive emotions shine through to women, very attractive), but it’s a nearly inevitable result.

Small steps towards acting by by the truth, and rejecting hopelessness not only as unpleasant, but as false, will reap some of the biggest rewards in your relationships with women, perhaps more than anything else. It’s foundational.

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Thursday, July 21, 2016

Are Free Dating Sites Worth The Effort?

Are free dating sites worth the time and effort of registering and uploading a profile? This is a question many people ask when looking for love online.

Online dating is a great way to meet someone when you find yourself single, but which site is best? There are hundreds to choose from, sites to cover every niche. The biggest decision is whether to opt for a paid dating site or a free site.

Premium dating websites such as and E-Harmony can work very well, but the sign up cost is often very high. In some cases the member will sign up and have difficulty in cancelling membership. The premium sites claim to have a better more serious database of members and so your chances of meeting Mr or Mrs Right is higher than that of a free dating site. This is not necessarily the case though, there is no written or proven rule that indicates whether a paid dating site is more fruitful than a free one.

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With free dating sites such as Free UK Dating Site, the members can register for free, same as Match etc, but they have access to more features and the pressure is not so high to sign up and part with cash to use the site to its full potential.

Most site should allow you to browse for free, but some paid sites do actually have a limit to how many profiles you can view in one day, they will also no longer allow you to wink for free. The free wink feature is extremely useful when browsing potential partners. The reason being that you can gauge if the person you’re viewing is also interested in you, by winking back. If you get a wink.. it’s likely you will have an email back should you choose to register fully and email that person. Not always the case but quite often.

How do Free dating sites make their money though? Well, many make their money from hooking you in, once you start receiving interest then it’s worth registering fully to capitalise on your previous encounters. This then generates revenue for the dating site, the other way in which free dating sites make money is from selling the database of members. Data is big business and unfortunately if you have signed up to a dating site it is likely that sign up will be worth money further down the line, you just need to make sure that you read the terms and conditions before you join and not part with any unnecessary personal information. One free dating site which will ask for additional information is Plenty of, they ask for the number and age of siblings in your family and you must fill this in to use the website. They also use raunchy sexual adverts which lead to premium sites.

In all, any dating site which has a good and up to date selection of members is worth a try, but free dating sites will probably leave you feeling less frustrated if you don’t have much luck.

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